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Are You Entitled to a Black Woman’s Body?

25.09.2017 in Sex Arsenal Blog

Entitled: believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment As I sit here in Washington DC for the Black Reproductive Justice Summit (#BlackRJSummit17), I’ve realized a lot of things when it comes to Black women’s bodies and it’s reflective of the things…

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Women! Stop Waiting for Your Orgasms!

15.09.2017 in Sex Arsenal Blog

Generally, about 80% of women do not have orgasms through penetrative sex.  So what does this mean? Logically, it means, women need to have other kinds of sex besides penetration.  Penetration can be fun, and it can even lead to orgasm, but for the most…


7 Things You Need For Great Sex

01.09.2017 in Sex Arsenal Blog

Today, on the How We Talk About Sex podcast, Eric asked me a really great question and I thought it would be the perfect blog to write.  He asked me, “What constitutes great sex?” I really loved this question because it helped me realize a…

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Do You Pay Your Sex Bill?

20.07.2017 in Sex Arsenal Blog

You’re probably thinking, “what the hell are you talking about, woman?” I’m talking about investing in your sex life.  What are you doing today to invest in your sex life? Some folks go to the sex shop to buy new sex toys that they could…

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Are You Managing Your Orgasms?

23.06.2017 in Sex Arsenal Blog

Yesterday, I was listening to this great TED Talk about managing your time, or “procrastinating on purpose.”  I’m always so busy and I really needed to get some coaching about time management, so I figured I should listen to this while doing my ab and…

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Your 2017 New Year Sexual Resolutions

07.01.2017 in Sex Arsenal Blog

It’s a brand new year and you know what that means!  That means it’s time to recharge our sexual selves so that we can manifest all the things we want in the world.  Feeding our sexual energy is vital to our self-improvement and well-being, so…

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How to Be Sexy & (Voluntarily) Celibate

04.06.2015 in Sex Arsenal Blog

I know what you’re thinking… You’re thinking, “Marla!  What has gotten into you?  You?  Celibate?  On purpose?” And the answer is “Yes.” “But you teach about how to have better sex and better orgasms.  Why would you even promote celibacy in your lustful world?” And…

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