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Do You Pay Your Sex Bill?

20 Jul 2017, by Marla Stewart in Sex Arsenal Blog

You’re probably thinking, “what the hell are you talking about, woman?”

I’m talking about investing in your sex life.  What are you doing today to invest in your sex life?

Some folks go to the sex shop to buy new sex toys that they could implement in their relationship, but after you get the new toy, you play with it, and then it sits in the drawer waiting to be seen again.  Some kinky folks usually have the opportunity to play with it more than non-kinky folks, but the fact of the matter is, toys can eventually lose their luster.  So then what do you do?

We all have bills to pay.  We have our rent or mortgage.  We have our cell phone bill.  We have the electricity, the gas, and the water.  We have the car note, the pet needs, groceries.  We have the cable bill, streaming video bills, and gym memberships.  We have to take care of the people in our homes, and most of all we have to do our own self-care.

Self-care is not only about getting a massage or treating yourself to a fancy dinner and a movie.  Self-care is also about investing in your sex life.  The fact of the matter is, if you enhance your sex life, your life, in general, will get better.

So why do we not invest in our sex lives?  Why do we continue to be bored with our sex lives and put up with not having orgasms?  Why do we turn to porn to short circuit our brains to get one (or more) off?

We have to pay our sex bill regularly.  Whether it’s buying a new toy, watching an education video, or hiring a sex coach to learn some new tricks and get educated about various aspects of sex, you need to regularly pay your sex bill.

The first step is understanding what makes you satisfied sexually.  The second step is amping up your sexual desires with toys, videos, or tricks.  The third step is to continually invest in yourself and learn new things about yourself.  The more you know about yourself, the better sex life you will have and the better life you will have!  It’s an amazing cyclical force that you definitely want to find yourself in.

Cheers to your sexual success!

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