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It Is What It Is…

10.10.2018 in Sex Arsenal Blog

This past weekend, I went on a working retreat with the Sexual Liberation Collective.  We were gathered in the Bay Area to discuss our work, our finances, and future plans.  I was particularly frustrated with one of the elements that we were moving slowly on,…

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What’s Your Sexual Appetite?

03.10.2018 in Sex Arsenal Blog

Last week, when Jet Setting Jasmine and I were talking about Religious Trauma in our Guilty Pleasures Support Group, as it pertains to shame and guilt around certain sexual behaviors and identities, Jasmine talked about navigating your sexual appetite and what that looks like.  In…

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Expect the Unexpected

29.08.2018 in Sex Arsenal Blog

Have you ever been in a situation where you were surprised by something someone said or something someone did?  How did it make you feel? In my line of work, I’m always surprised by something someone said or by something someone did; whether it’s a…

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Avoiding Love Bombs!

07.08.2018 in Sex Arsenal Blog

A lot of my students know that one of my guilty pleasures is watching Dr. Phil.  Most of my friends roll their eyes at me whenever I mention him, but there’s nothing like watching these people sort out their issues with that big guy.  As…

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3 Strikes & You’re Out?

27.06.2018 in Sex Arsenal Blog

This past weekend, I had a full workshop about Queering Your Sex Skills at the Southern Fried Queer Pride festival and it was absolutely great!  I had a cute, young couple, one woman and one man who were in a monogamous relationship who had tried…

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The Choices You Make For Your Sex Life

05.06.2018 in Sex Arsenal Blog

We make choices every single day.  We make choices about our health habits, our work life, our family life, our social fabric, and in our sexual lives. I was inspired by this article that talked about how this husband made a spreadsheet about all the…

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