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Fantasies vs. Realities

06.02.2019 in Sex Arsenal Blog

Sexual liberation comes in all forms, but there’s one thing that we can’t deny – the fantasies that we have in our head don’t always translate well IRL (“in real life” for my non-social media/texty folks).  Sometimes we think of the most amazing, fun, and…

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The Biggest Lesson I Learned in 2018

02.01.2019 in Sex Arsenal Blog

As long as I’ve been studying sex, relationships, and sexuality (which is about 18 years now), there was something that was ingrained in my head over and over again: “Relationships are work.” And throughout my life, I really found this to be the case.  Every…

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It Is What It Is…

10.10.2018 in Sex Arsenal Blog

This past weekend, I went on a working retreat with the Sexual Liberation Collective.  We were gathered in the Bay Area to discuss our work, our finances, and future plans.  I was particularly frustrated with one of the elements that we were moving slowly on,…

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What’s Your Sexual Appetite?

03.10.2018 in Sex Arsenal Blog

Last week, when Jet Setting Jasmine and I were talking about Religious Trauma in our Guilty Pleasures Support Group, as it pertains to shame and guilt around certain sexual behaviors and identities, Jasmine talked about navigating your sexual appetite and what that looks like.  In…

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Expect the Unexpected

29.08.2018 in Sex Arsenal Blog

Have you ever been in a situation where you were surprised by something someone said or something someone did?  How did it make you feel? In my line of work, I’m always surprised by something someone said or by something someone did; whether it’s a…

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Avoiding Love Bombs!

07.08.2018 in Sex Arsenal Blog

A lot of my students know that one of my guilty pleasures is watching Dr. Phil.  Most of my friends roll their eyes at me whenever I mention him, but there’s nothing like watching these people sort out their issues with that big guy.  As…

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