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The Power of Pet Names

20 Nov 2014, by Marla Stewart in Sex Arsenal Blog

I never really thought about this before, but recently, I started thinking about all the nicknames that I’ve been given over time.  From Marls to Marley to Marly Marl to Mar – all these names are always unique to the individuals who have given them to me.  Considering that my name only has five letters, I thought it was always fascinating that people could be so creative when it comes to my name!

With my past serious lovers, all of them pet names for me that were always unique as well.  I wish I could remember them all, but I know those terms of endearment always made me feel great.  Pet names have always made me feel desired, loved and adored, which are qualities that I surely appreciate.  Pet names are useful and I love the fact that they can be as unique as the person that you’re adoring at the time.  Here are some useful tips on manifesting a great pet name for a lover.

#1 – Think about the features of your lover.  What is particularly different about your lover?  Is it the color of their skin?  Is it the curves of their body?  Is it their muscular physique?  Think about a particular feature that they have (that you really enjoy) and hone in on it.  And you don’t only have to think about one, think about a few, and then later on, you can try them on and see which one you like the best.

#2 – Think about the descriptive qualities of your lover.  Are they sweet?  Are they sexy?  What are some adjectives that you could use to describe them?  Think about everything from colors to textures to sizes to landscapes.  There’s such a vast array of adjectives that you could really find the perfect one to go with the perfect body part…which brings us to the next section…

#3 – Combine your adjective and your body part to form the ultimate pet name.  Now, it doesn’t have to be totally an adjective and totally a body part.  For instance, one pet name that a lover gave me was “sugar butt” and I thought it was fantastic.  Do I have a sweet butt?  Maybe…But the pet name sure does elude you to think so, right?  One pet name that I gave to my last lover was “chocolate drop” because he had beautiful dark chocolate skin and I loved kissing his lips – just like a Hershey’s kiss.  I think using this combination of an adjective and a body part is useful, but it’s best to be creative and figure out what you adore about your lover.

Even though creating a pet name can be fun, it’s even more fun to hear the new pet name for your lover.  If your pet name suits your lover right, then you will know because of their response.  If they smile and respond in a loving way, then you know you got a good one.  If you’ve come up with more than one, then it’s good to have the others in your arsenal in case you need you need to pull them out.  For instance, if you want their delicious lips at a particular point in time, then you give them that pet name when you want to kiss them or have them kiss you.  For example, even though it was similar, when a lover told me that she wanted my “sugar lips”, I knew exactly what she meant – and it was the same when she called me “sugar butt”…

Regardless, I think pet names are fun and you can definitely use them to your advantage to influence a lover to being in your favor.  I would love to hear the pet names that you have given lovers, so give ‘em to me!

Cheers to your sexual success!