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I don’t know if you’ve ever been to Toronto, but if you haven’t, you need to go ahead and make your way out there!  I had such a wonderful time presenting my pussy pleasing workshop at the Playground Conference, as well as presenting my Intensify Your Sexual Connection workshop with couples at Oasis Aqualounge.  Everyone had a blast at my workshops; so much so, that they want me to come back and do more!  For all you Torontians (is that right?), I’m on it!  I can’t wait to go back!

Besides handling business (and fun!), I got the opportunity to go to the Good For Her store in downtown Toronto.  It’s this cute little quaint store with a variety of quality sex toys and more!  I loved this little feminist store stocked with zines, books, and sources for all of your pleasures.  The most fascinating thing that I found in the store is Sex Tampons!  They aren’t like our regular tampons that we have here in the states and they definitely don’t sell them here in the states, as far as I know.  I looked at the reviews online while I was in the store and I was convinced that I had to have them.

They are pink, circular sponges that basically soak up your premenstrual blood.  They go up to your cervix and this allows you to have penetration without a mess!  I don’t know about you, but since I have a high sex drive, no sex while I’m on my period is absolutely out of the question.  I quickly took a picture of this item and sent it to my lover.  She was just as excited as I was (at least, that’s what I was getting out of the text), and I told my wonderful friend and sex educator, Luna Matatas (Peg the Patriarchy, Fuck Like a Goddess), that she had to ship me more when I ran out.

The only one flaw with this innovative sex tool is that some folks had a hard time getting it out.  Luna informed me that she ties dental string around it to pull it out, so I’ll definitely keep that in mind.  Some folks tended to panic that they couldn’t get it out, and I definitely didn’t want that to be me.  As a Type A, I’m generally not okay with being out of control over something that I think I can control.

As I explored all around the store, I spotted this toy.  I had been wanting to get this toy since I was in Amsterdam because I thought it was a suction tool for your clitoris.  Well, I finally learned that it wasn’t.  It might form a suction with your clitoris, but it actually just vibrates.  I was pretty disappointed, but also hopeful.

I’m not a sex toy expert and although I like to experiment with different toys, when it comes to sexuality and sex education, I tend to stay in my lane and not go and try to educate on the sex toy realm.  There are so many sex educators and sex toy sellers that I think it’s best if folks go to them when it comes to toys.  However, I really, really, really, really, hope that someone comes out with a suction toy for your clit soon.  My lover said that I would put her out of business, but I convinced her that nothing replaces human contact when it comes to sex.  Yes, for those of us who masturbate, we know our bodies well, but the joy of being in contact with someone and that kind of foreign touch is definitely a turn on!

Good For Her is run by Carlyle Jansen, who I had the pleasure of taking an anal workshop at the University of Guelph Sexuality Conference a couple of years ago.  She runs workshops out of her shop, which is located upstairs from the sex toys and books.  In addition to having all those wonderful things, she also has an incredible staff who do amazing and wonderful sex positive things, so I admire her work for cultivating the pleasure in our communities.

If you’re ever in Toronto, you should definitely go and check them out!  And if anything, make sure you go and get those sex tampons!

Cheers to your sexual success!