Velvet Lips » sexucation http://velvetlipsllc.com Bringing Sexy Back to Sex Education Tue, 30 Jan 2024 01:08:37 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.35 With Velvet Lips ON AIR, we will be answering your questions, giving you tips on (what else?) improving your sex life and featuring new and exciting guests who specialize around various subjects. We want to always bring you the latest and greatest around sexuality, so be sure to listen in on every 3rd Sunday. Velvet Lips ON AIR is going to continue to bring sexy back to sex education and gear you up to be the best lover you can be! Velvet Lips yes Velvet Lips marla@velvetlipsllc.com marla@velvetlipsllc.com (Velvet Lips) Velvet Lips ON AIR sexuality, sexuality education, sex education, velvet lips, sexological bodywork, seduction, marla renee stewart, healthy sexuality Velvet Lips » sexucation http://velvetlipsllc.com/ebiz/wp-content/uploads/powerpress/VL_on_AIR_logo_itunes.jpg http://velvetlipsllc.com TV-MA Strap-On School for Vaginas http://velvetlipsllc.com/strap-on-school-for-vaginas/ http://velvetlipsllc.com/strap-on-school-for-vaginas/#comments Wed, 03 Apr 2013 03:13:00 +0000 http://velvetlipsllc.com/strap-on-school-for-vaginas/ When I talk to people who use and experience strap-ons, there’s always the strap-on debate.  Questions like, “what is too big?” “what harness is good for me?” and “what’s the best sexual position to be in?” all spark interest and concern.  Whether you’re the one enveloping (being penetrated) or being enveloped (penetrating), the strap-on can be powerful and pleasurable or pathetic and painful.  It’s up to you which one you want to experience.
For those who envelop (are penetrated):
  • Keep the lube handy.  Whether your vagina gets wet easily or not, it’s always nice to keep lube handy.  When you have it handy, it’s less pressuring for you to get wet.  And sometimes there’s nothing sexier than when you rub the lube on your hands and rub it on them while maintaining eye contact and a seductive smile.  To ensure a good time on your end, make sure that you use a water-based lube that is glycerin and paraben-free.  I would recommend a vegan-friendly, organic lube because these lubes will not agitate your vagina or cause a yeast infection.  And ain’t nobody got time for a yeast infection.  I personally love Bedroom Kandi’s collection of organic, glycerin and paraben-free lubes.
  • Know what size you can take in.  The average vaginal length is 4 inches, so some vaginas are going to be shorter, while other ones will be longer.  When your vagina is aroused, it balloons near the cervix, so there’s definitely a little bit of extra room if you need it.  Just be sure to speak up  or adjust yourself if the strap-on hits your cervix because not only is it painful, but you can cause some real serious damage.  Some of us love to feel full, while others just love the feeling on our G-spots, so figure out what sizes would be best for your vagina.
  • Experiment with different positions.  When you experiment with different positions, you can choose which ones will give you the best pleasure and/or the best orgasm.  Depending on the size of the strap-on, there are certain positions that allow you more room for penetration as your cervix shifts, so make sure you try them all!     
  • Recognize your G-spot.  No one should know your G-spot better than you, so get in tune with that spongy tissue that will possibly make your life more exciting.  Once you know where and how to stimulate your G-spot, you can communicate to your partner about how to arouse that fantastical spot.  And if you’re lucky enough, the release when you ejaculate from your G-spot stimulation, will be filled with wonders, excitement and perpetually piquing you and your partner’s curiosities.
For those who get enveloped (penetrate):
  • The right harness is necessary.  With every stroke, you need to make sure that you don’t have any pain or discomfort when your harness is being put to work.  A comfortable harness is a harness that you barely recognize that it’s there.  If you need a new harness, check out the ones at MySpare.com, which have had some rave reviews by women and men who love them.
  • Have different sizes handy.  This is a dream come true to any woman who is being penetrated.  The reason is simple: depending on the size of her vagina, you can feel free to have the confidence that you have whatever size she needs to maximize her pleasure.  And when she’s happy, you will be happy as well.  Remember that most women prefer girth over length, so make sure you choose wisely.
  • Keep an arsenal of moves in the back of your brain.  There are plenty of books around that show you various sexual positions and it’s good to keep about 5-10 in your brain.  Most people feel comfortable with 3, but if you know more than that, not only will come off as confident, you will probably be labeled a connoisseur.  Keep them guessing about which move will be the next in line to experience the knowledge you possess.
  • Use protection/Keep it clean.  Silicone dildos are best when it comes to strap-on sex because they can be easily cleaned, they have a good amount of stiffness and dexterity, and they are non-porous, which means that bacteria can’t fester in the material.  If you’re having sex with multiple partners, condom use is necessary in order not to spread bacteria and infections.  Make sure that you keep the condom lubricated with water-based, glycerin and paraben-free lube and after sex, make sure you wash your dildo with hot water and soap.  Bacteria can also fester in harnesses, so make sure you keep those clean as well. 
Remember, all it takes is practice to perfect the art of strap-on sex!  And don’t worry, I didn’t forget about anal sex…we’ll tackle that one next time!
Xoxo, marla
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Now that I’m older, I realize that it’s even more important for us to cherish our vulvas and vaginas.  We are plagued with many more stresses than we had as kids and our bodies constantly go through changes that adversely affect our vaginas and vulvas.  At times, our vaginas may become more sensitive.  We might be more susceptible to Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) and Yeast Infections because our PH balances may become off.  Our vaginas become sensitive to the touch when we’re ovulating or on our period, which helps us ignite our sexual energy.
With that said, I think it’s very important for us to cherish our genitals all the time and there are several ways to do this:
1)  KNOW her.  Make sure you know all the parts of her.  She will appreciate it.  Be able to look at and point out your inner and outer lips, clitoris, urethral opening, G-spot, perineum, and anus.  The more you know about her, the better you will be at exploring her.
2)  PERSONIFY her.  You can give her a name or just refer to her as she/her.  I encourage you to say “my vagina,” “my pussy,” “my va-jay-jay,” “my yoni,” or anything else you want to call it, as long as it’s preceded by “my.”  Stay away from names like “it,” “down there,” or anything that keeps you from connecting to your genitals.  You want to be one with them because the better you treat her, the better she will be to you!
3)  LOOK at her.  At least once a week, you should look at your vulva to see what’s happening with her.  Is her hair growing too wildly and need grooming?  Does she have any idiosyncrasies like pimples, ingrown hairs, or symptoms of infections?  Check her out often to make sure she’s taken care of.  If she looks good, she feels good, and she will treat you good.
4)  CLEAN her.  I know this seems obvious, but sometimes it’s not.  Although “ho baths” and baby wipes help to clean her, she really needs to have a bath or shower at least once a day.  Make sure you get in all the little crevices between the lips and under the clitoral hood on the vulva.  Your vagina cleanses herself naturally, so no need for douches (unless there’s an idiosyncrasy that requires it).  Women’s clean, natural scents can be erotic and smells trigger memories; so make sure she smells wonderful!
5)  STIMULATE her.  You can stimulate her in a few ways: 1) purposefully masturbate and/or bring her to orgasm, 2) read or visualize something sexual that wakes her up, 3) Kegel exercises, and/or 4) have someone else touch her and cherish her.  Stimulating her helps you to relieve stress and releases pheromones, which allows you to feel good and attract people.
6)  DISCIPLINE her.  I know this sounds harsh, but your vagina will thank you for disciplining her.  Sometimes she likes to be greedy, but remember that overstimulation and acidic environments (too many acidic foods) are bad for her.  However, don’t discipline her so much that you become neglectful.  She needs to be loved and taken care of to the fullest of your capabilities.
7)  PROTECT her.  With your vagina, you want to always make sure that you protect her from sexually transmitted diseases/infections, by using condoms, latex gloves and open communication with your lover(s).  With your vulva, you always want to make sure you protect her by using latex barriers for oral or vagina-vagina contact and use open communication to the best of your ability.
The better you take care of your vagina, the better she will be to you and not cause you any problems.  Cherish her and love her and make sure that whoever wants to be near her that they love and cherish her too!
Xoxo, marla
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