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Harvesting Your Sexual Energy and Employing Sex Transmutation/Sublimation/Magic – Part 2

Marla Stewart — Thu, 03 Jul 2014 01:04:06 +0000

In the last blog, I talked briefly about how I’m able to do the things that I do by channeling my sexual energy. While we all might have our different ways of channeling our energy, here are my ways (and ways of some others) that you can channel your sexual energy into productive energy that ignites you to your true potential.

1) WRITE DOWN AT LEAST 4 POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS THAT YOU WANT TO HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE AND FRAME THEM IN THE PRESENT TENSE. Say these affirmations out loud when you wake up (or during your prayer/meditation) and before you go to sleep. It helps to have a sex-positive affirmation, such as “I am sexy” or “I have a healthy and happy sex life.” Do your best to memorize them and say them as often as you want (with the minimum being two). A lot of the times that we are stagnant in our lives is because we lack goals and/or lack ways to accomplish those goals and give up on dreaming big. When we implement these into the Universe, we are essentially integrating our personal goals and locking them in place.

2) PRAY/REQUEST FROM THE UNIVERSE/GOD WHAT YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE AND FRAME IT POSITIVELY. In other words, instead of saying, “Can you please help my grandma recover from her sickness?”, you can say “Can you please give my grandma strength, courage and healing through this process?” A lot of times when we pray or request for help, we focus on the negative aspect of it and we frame our request in that way. However, if you pray or request your help and frame it in a positive way, the Universe comes together to get you what you desire. It’s difficult if you’re not used to speaking this way, but after awhile, you will definitely get the hang of it. I meditate and pray every single day. It doesn’t take that long to take 20 minutes out of your day (10 in the morning, 10 in the evening) to conjure up your desires.

3) HAVE SEX AND MASTURBATE WITH MODERATION. Sex has so many great healthy effects, including fostering that sexual energy to manage your creativity and productivity. As humans, we get caught up because of the sexual repression of society combined with the hypersexuality of the media, so we’re constantly bombarded with all types of sexual energy. If you are an anxious person, the feeling of wanting to relieve that sexual pressure can be a lot. For instance, whenever I had a big paper or a huge deadline, my sexual energy would be so intense that I would be pushed pass the point of focus and would have to use my sexual energy in a sexual way. That way, the excess energy that I have can be used to focus on whatever needs to be done.

4) USE YOUR SEXUAL POWER EVERY SINGLE DAY. If you don’t know what your sexual power looks like, I encourage you to meditate on it and write down what your favorite qualities are about yourself. For instance, if you like reading books, maybe you could share a passage with someone or make a recommendation from the book. If your sexual power is something physical, like your eyes, you can purposely stare in a sexual or slightly sexual way (that’s not creepy) towards someone and recognize that you’ve used your power. Some of us are natural flirts and some of us have to try a little hard to flirt well. However, as long as you’re using it, you’re exercising your power, and when you’re exercising your power, the better you’ll be at it. Remember, practice makes perfect.

Starting with these few techniques will change your life. When you start saying your affirmations, your subconscious and the Universe/God get together to make them happen for you. By practicing and harvesting your sexual energy, not only will you be happier, but you will be more confident, more sure in your decisions and better responsive to your intuition. Your aura will shine bright and opportunities will constantly present themselves to you. I have to say, THIS IS A WONDERFUL WAY TO LIVE.

Get Aroused!

Marla Stewart — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 23:21:00 +0000

For some of you, the wind just has to blow and you are automatically excited and ready to have sex. For the rest of you, it might not come as easy. Maybe you’re having a “low-desire” episode in your life or maybe that new relationship energy has worn off and you aren’t as excitable as you used to be. A lot of people have tension around getting sexually aroused when they are partnered. And, I’ve also noticed that when someone isn’t partnered and they feel that they’ve lost their sexual mojo, it’s quite clear that they truly have.

Getting back your sexual energy requires patience, but once that cycle is up, it keeps spiraling up, so it’s good to have some strategies to increase your libido.

If you don’t have a steady lover, it’s good to masturbate and think about things that are pleasurable to you. If you have porn, use it every once in a while to help you get aroused; however, don’t get dependent on it because it actually changes your brain function. Think about the most pleasurable moments in your life that you felt sexually secure and genuinely sexy. In addition, it’s extremely sexy to have a passion in your life. No matter what it is, doing something with your life that you are passionate about helps your libido in all kinds of ways. Once people see how motivated you are by your passion, they also get inspired and that energy tends to resonate from the inside of you. For those of you who struggle to find your passion, take the time to figure it out. You will be glad you did.

Another way to get your sexual desire back is to create emotional bonds. The way you do that is by hugging people. And not just hugging them for a half second and patting them on the back; I mean, go in with two full arms tight and loving. Often times, we don’t hug people (like our coworkers) because of the fear of what they may think (or some fear of sexual harassment). Get over it the best way you can. When you hug people out of pure love (with no other intention), people feel it. And once you have created that emotional bond, it’s easier to talk to them and get to know them a little bit better than you knew what was possible.

If you have a steady lover, get those hugs in every day. And not just 2-second hugs. I mean 20-second hugs where you are holding tight, grabbing their butt and pushing it into your pelvis. Intensifying this hug jolts your sexual energy and helps you get back on the right track of your bringing together your sexual connection.

Make out/French kiss/Kiss tenderly with your partner at least once a week. Don’t kiss when you want to have sex, but rather kiss without any other intention. In addition to a passionate kiss at least once a week (which will turn into more), you need to make a kissing part of your routine. Whether it’s a kiss when you leave each other and come back again or whether it’s when you wake up and go to bed. Make kissing a part of your routine. That way, it won’t feel awkward when the passionate kissing happens. More likely, it will be an excitable kiss – especially since you have a nerve that connects your upper lip to your genitals.

Another way to bring up your arousal level is to do love proclamations. Not only does this mean saying “I love you” to your lover every day, but also acting out your love proclamations. What appeals to your lover the most as far as love desires. Do these and incorporate moments of erotic intentional touch. Sometimes it takes more work than anticipated, but remember, love is patient, so once you start acting and being ‘love,’ your partner will reciprocate those actions (without them really noticing, either!).

Do you have a sexy playlist that you like that makes you feel sexy every time? If not, create one! Music helps with releasing endorphins and helping you to reduce your amount of stress. In addition, the right music will get you in the mood. Whether it’s the melody or the lyrics, you can find the right song to stimulate you. If you want to take it a step further, think about a song that you and your partner made love to or danced to where you felt that fire. Thinking back to the times when you first got aroused by your partner also help to re-ignite some of those old sparks to get them to be active again.

The fact is, you have to put in a little bit of effort and have a little bit of patience if you want to ignite your sexual sparks. In today’s culture, we thrive on “instant” and if something takes too long, we tend to give up easily. My advice: take the time and don’t give up on the love for yourself and the love for other people. Leaving or giving up is the easiest route to go, but the rewards are greater when you get through obstacles instead of leaving the course.

5 Easy Steps to Relieve Your Pain

Marla Stewart — Wed, 08 Jan 2014 16:24:00 +0000

Feeling some pain? Then have some sex! When we are in pain, sex isn’t our number one go-to when it should be. Not only can the effects last for up to two days, but it relieves most types of pains, including migraines/headaches, menstrual cramps, back and joint aches, especially if accompanied with an orgasm (no matter how small!).

When you’re in pain, and sex is (almost!) the last thing on your mind, here are some tips to override that brief uncomfortable time and get you to the orgasm that you need. I highly suggest masturbation as the tool to relive this pain, especially because you are the sexpert of your own body and finding pleasurable spots should be fairly easy to find.

Step #1: Get in a comfortable position. If you’re at home, find a place that is relaxing to you where you can be by yourself. If you’re at work/school/anywhere else, I suggest a private room, bathroom stall or your car. Anywhere where you can be alone and be at a peace of mind to mentally prepare yourself.

Step #2: Tell yourself that “pain is temporary” and repeat this phrase over and over again until you actually believe it. Most of the time when we continue to be in pain, we focus so much on the pain, that we don’t actually focus on the relief from that pain. This is the perfect way to use your sexual energy for purpose.

Step #3: Get to a high arousal state. After believing that your pain is temporary, think about things that turn you on THE MOST. Yes, that means going from 0-60 in two seconds. Pain and pleasure releases the same endorphins; however, increasing this production of hormones through pleasure actually increases your pain tolerance. So think of the things that get you to an orgasm space…

Step #4: Get to your genitals! Whether it’s pulling your skirt up or pulling your pants down, your hand needs to find its way to your genitals. Once you find those key areas of pleasure, get to work! Remember, that you have left those thoughts of pain go away and are only focusing on the images and feelings that get you to orgasm.

Step #5: Have that orgasm! Hopefully, it won’t take you too long to have that orgasm, but if you’re in a lot of pain, it might take longer than usual. Again, focus on the pleasure that you’re having (or will be having!). If you are in a lot of pain, please repeat steps 1 through 5 as necessary!

After this, you will walk away feeling refreshed, pain-free and the effects could last for up to two days. On these cold, winter nights where our joints tend to tighten up, this is the perfect cure to warm you up and get exactly what you need when you can’t bear the pain any longer.