The reason I brought up Maury and the paternity suits is because I came across an article that piqued my interest.  It was about how an old theory called ‘telegony’ might be at play when it comes to reproduction.  Basically, this theory posits that females who are sexually exposed to various males, those semen molecules will attach themselves to the egg and that if she were to get pregnant, there will be some DNA of those other males and some of their traits may be realized in the offspring.

Now, if you’ve kept up with my Facebook page, you might have seen this article where it states that scientists found that women carry the DNA of their previous male lovers.  With that said, there’s some real validity to the doubts that these men have in the Maury show.  Maybe they don’t see the traits in their offspring, or maybe they see traits of the other men that she may have slept with.  Regardless, now we can seriously take this theory into consideration.  Although they haven’t tested telegony with humans, it doesn’t seem to be far off base.

I know I’m getting a little scientific and philosophical, but I want you to think about the current state of your sex life, if you are having casual sex.  In my previous blog about casual sex, I asked you a series of questions that you would need to ask yourself if you were engaging in casual sex.  Now, I pose this to you (particularly for those with vaginal canals and uteri [one per person]):  Would you engage in unprotected casual sex if the potential child had various aspects of your previous lovers?  Would you mind if your potential child had some various aspects of your ex that you didn’t like?

I know that these are hypothetical questions, but I think they can help you, especially when it comes to risk reduction and empowering your sex life.  If you’re a spiritual person, you might even say that the emotional feelings of your past lovers can affect your DNA and even your offspring if you’re not careful.

On the other hand, maybe sleeping with a lot of people can help to the hybridization of society in some form or another and maybe we can all understand each other better if we each had a little of the same DNA (which is already happening).  Or maybe not.  But I guess it’s just the beginning of the conversation that you should start with your friends…

Cheers to your sexual success!

Currently, I’m reading a book about sex research and what scientists have found in recent studies. I have to say, it’s really advantageous to be in school right now and have access to the most current research studies regarding sexuality. Although this book was published in 2009, I’m sure it took a year or two or more to get it published, so I’m always curious to know what the updated statistics are if there are any. 

One fact that I learned was that the average amount of people that sleep with before they find the “perfect partner” is 12. Now, if you have less than this or way more than this, it doesn’t matter. 12 just seems to be the average ​number. I guess the number 13 is lucky after all. 

I’m curious to know that if you have the ‘perfect partner’ at this ​time in your life and you average how many people they’ve slept with the number that you’ve slept with if the number would be 12. Something tells me, not so much, but I’m not genuinely 
​interested in that type of sex research. Although I see it as useful ​in some contexts, some people have lost track on how many people they’ve slept with and that causes skewed biases. Besides, how many people are completely truthful to a random survey ​about their sex lives without having them feel like it’s some sort of attack on their morals or ethics. I’ve found that most people who find that they identify with an “alternative sexuality” are the ones that really talk about their sex lives in more of an explicit and affirming way.

Millennials are now growing up in a ‘hookup culture’ of stigma-free casual sex. The stigma of religion isn’t carrying as much weight as it used to because of the contradicting dynamics of the social culture as time moves forward. Everyone is concerned with their own morality and ethics and sexual energy and individualistic sexuality are recognized as vehicles of self-seeking pleasure with the logical reasoning of sexual health benefits. And besides, how would you know what that “perfect partner” looks like and how would you know that you don’t have several “perfect partners” for you? Love has been romanticized as perfect actions that are constantly occurring, when in reality, there are always ups and downs with the perfect person. The perfect person is not perfect all the time and they’re not perfect for you all the time. Sometimes they suck at being your partner. But if you have an understanding of each other and you know how to communicate effectively, you can get over your partner being not perfect a lot sooner than if you didn’t. 

I didn’t find any updated articles about the amount of partners folks have recently, but I hope someone’s doing that study for the near future. Friends with benefits is a pretty hot subject, but the most recent research shows that friends with benefits have less actual benefits than those who are married or in monogamous relationships. I guess that’s another argument for monogamy, but I’m sure I will get to that another day!